Happiness.

What is happiness?

That is a question I have been asking myself quite a lot lately and I did come to the conclusion that happiness indeed means different things to different people. For some people true happiness lies in material things for others it’s things that money can’t buy.

“Happiness is not what you see. Happiness is what you feel, it’s what comes from within. Happiness is a state of mind”.

That is the tagline of my blog and I believe with all my heart that happiness indeed is a state of mind; you can create your own happiness. You can choose to be happy or you can choose not to be happy it is up to you. The reason why I say this is because we can find certain situations in our lives where we definitely have a choice of thinking about it in two different ways; we can either choose to see the positive even in bad situations or we can chose to see the negative.

I know that it isn’t always easy to stay positive and to be perfectly honest I’m definitely not someone who is always positive but I am working on it. However what I’ve learned through experience is that if you have a positive attitude towards certain things it will make your life a lot easier and will automatically make you happier since you pay more attention to the positive aspects of life rather than to the negative.

I’m sure that there will be someone who will point out the fact that there’s people out there who have literally nothing and will ask how I can possibly expect them to be happy? But what I’ve experienced from my trip to Ghana a couple of years ago is that even though some of those people had very little and lived in extreme poverty, they still seemed happy. To me at that time it seemed quite odd as I couldn’t really understand how people could possibly be happy living under those conditions, however as I got older I realized that it  has all to do with contentment and the attitude you have towards life. If you are content with what you have then there’s hardly anything that could ever steal your joy, which by the way doesn’t mean you shouldn’t aim for better things! Aim high and definitely dream big. Ambition will always add to your overall happiness, especially once you’ve achieved your goals.

Another thing that will help you to be happier is to surround yourself with positive people, people that are encouraging and always try to support and bring out the best in you. Forget those negative people who try to bring you down, life is way to short to be wasting time on them.

I personally am very happy at the moment not only because I just turned 21 on Thursday whop! whop! but also because I realized that I’ve got everything I need for now :).

How do you feel about happiness? Tell me about what makes you happy in the comment box below.

Lots of Love

Heidi x

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The words we speak carry a lot of weight.

There was a quote I read at the tube station the other day (read my post about quotes at Balham station here) which said:

“Sometimes the smallest things, take up the most room in your heart”

This quote really made me think and I totally agreed with it. Just recently my friend mentioned something I said to her about two years ago, which to me at that time was quite insignificant however to her it carried so much weight that it stuck in her head up until now.  What I said to her was: “Even if you’re trying to lose weight, you’re not going to look skinny because I think you’re just big boned.” Now when I think about it to say that to a person who is trying to lose weight is not really encouraging, especially if it’s a very close friend.

Obviously back then I didn’t think about what I said and along the way I totally forgot about it, but when we had a conversation not too long ago and she mentioned this comment to me I felt really bad. I felt bad because not only was it very insensitive but also because this was something I said to a friend whom I’m supposed to encourage and support.

The fact that it stuck in her head until now only made me realize that indeed words carry a lot of weight. I’m sure everyone has experienced something like this before, where someone has said something to you, which you have taken quite seriously meanwhile the other person didn’t even pay attention to what he or she just said. Sometimes when we say things, we don’t think about it which however doesn’t mean that the other person isn’t thinking about it either. It should be very important to us  to pay attention to what we say to people. We sometimes forget that people are different; how you perceive a situation is perceived totally different by another person.

There is a saying that says: ‘actions speak louder than words’, but sometimes I do wonder if that’s true.

Because words to me are quite loud and they can be very powerful to actually hurt a person.

How do you feel about this? Do you agree or maybe not? Let me know what you think in the comment box below.

Lots of Love

Heidi x

The Tube station that puts a smile on your face.

Would you have ever thought about the tube station as being a place where you can get inspired and motivated? Me either! Well as it turns out you can.

At Balham station where I catch the tube to go to uni or work, are always nice little quotes written down on a notice board every morning. I love seeing those not only do they make me smile but also make me think. Here in London these things are very helpful to read as I can imagine that a lot of people can get quite lost in their daily routine and don’t really look beyond what they are doing. Reading quotes like these in the morning might remind a few people that there is still so much more to life and that it is never too late to get up and do something new or follow a dream.

Here are some of the quotes I took pictures of  from the last couple of days.

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 My favorite is the one which says:

“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.”

Which one did you like ? Tell me what you think in the comment box below.

Lots of Love

Heidi x

Would you …

Hi Guys,

So my last post was about friendship and the rather disappointing side of it,  which strangely got me thinking about a totally different topic which however has also to do with friendship. I was wondering  if whether or not you would tell your friend if he or she has a smelly breath or smells bad in general?

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It might seem like a silly question to some people but it actually can be quite awkward to raise such a topic as you don’t really want to hurt your friend’s  feelings however at the same time you don’t want to be a bad friend by not telling him or her. I’m quite curious  about what you think so feel free to fill in my pole below, it only takes about a minute :D.

Lots of Love

Heidi x

People grow apart.

Remember when you were younger and used to say that you and your friends are going to be friends forever? You promised that you will always be there for each other and that no matter what that you will always have each other’s back.

You called each other ‘best friends’, which by the way reminds me of my friend who doesn’t like the term ‘best friend’ as she says that it in a way excludes your other friends and makes it seem like they aren’t as important as the person who you call your best friend. I guess I see where she is coming from and I myself have become very careful with this term and don’t really call anyone my best friend anymore. The reason for this is because I don’t really believe in best friends, since there will come a time where you realize that the person or the people you have once called your best friends or friends in general don’t mean the same thing to you as they once did. I guess the reason for this is because people change and grow apart, which in my opinion is not necessarily a bad thing. It’s not a bad thing because it’s just natural that as you grow up you develop different interests and start to think differently and start to realise that you just don’t have anything in common anymore.

How you realize that you and your friends have grown apart is that  eventually conversation becomes less and less and in a way seems forced. You find it hard to find a topic to talk about and usually end up just asking each other how you are. At some point you might event stop talking to each other without any particular reason. It can be very frustrating as you certainly never expected to feel so distant from a person to whom you once felt so close to. But at the same time you realise that there will be people you meet in your life who are just not meant to stay. And that’s okay I guess.

How do you feel about friends? Share Your thoughts on what you think about friendship in the comment box below.

Lots of Love

Heidi x

The Invisible Stopwatch.

The following post is a piece written by my very good friend Andrea Bellometti, who is a writer, actress as well as a fashion student. She never fails to make me laugh, inspire and encourage me and for those reasons I consider her to be a true friend. Her style of writing is just so beautiful, which is why I asked her to write a piece for my blog so that I can share it with everyone else. I hope you’ll like it.

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Andrea Bellometti

 Guest post by Andrea Bellometti

For my very good friend Heidi, the one who got me out of my usual student comatose state in bed today to write this and one of the few friends that make me feel blessed to have around. Whom I met in an unfortunate circumstance and at a weird point in my life, having being freshly fired from my first ever job I was lucky enough to find another one straight away coincidently right next door to the one I just got fired from. Awkward is just imbedded into my everyday life but my favorite word is serendipity, meaning finding something good unexpectedly and although life creates oceans between people, I hope that we will continue to keep swimming for each other and that we will never surrender to the dilution of ourselves for society or what life brings in general. At the very least I hope we will remember a time in which we felt completely infinite.

 

The world is a cruel, scary and unjust place and I only hope that one day someone stumbles upon my work and relates to the things I write and most importantly views the world a little differently like I do, come to find out that money is just a method of immeasurable self-destruction and sometimes your real friends only come in single digit numbers but that’s okay because it only means you have to buy less presents for Christmas and birthdays. Hopefully one by one the world and the people in it won’t seem so vacuous.

– Andrea Bellometti

The Invisible Stopwatch. 

And every time he wakes up to look at her he’s overcome with the fear that the light he turns on in her eyes will one day burn out. The notion of everything we invest in so tenderly has an expiry date. And he couldn’t for the life of him remember how it was like before he met her, and that scared him more than anything, the inevitable.

It’s a rare practice to really meet someone for the first time and not completely judge him or her on the basis of a few common superficial things; I think our own insecurities intertwine with the ‘first impression’. The subconscious telling us to fear the worst, human inferiority. What if this person is smarter than me? Funnier than me? God forbid better looking? The desperate scramble to find something incriminating to mask hidden insecurities about ones own self-worth.  There is almost something super natural in the way a group of girls or women get together.

We are programmed to believe that you can only fall in love once, the idea that we are defined by the hands of time and that everything must fall in a certain order in our lives, ‘true love’ and soul mates only occurs once and if we miss it, its gone forever.

It’s not true, different people make you feel different things and if your lucky enough to find someone who makes you view the world a little differently, that is a rare and beautiful thing and to be around a free spirit is a blessing for it makes you feel at peace with yourself and that is the kind of love that counts for something.

Life is a constant race to complete something in a certain time frame and some of us don’t even know where we are running to or the purpose of the race that we just stop running all together and allow the opportunity to succeed or be happy run right past us. It is much easier to give up than to have to face rejection, failure and bitter disappointment but understand that nothing is permanent and I think that is what terrifies most of us, to be shaken out of bliss only to be left with nothing but a memory. But to start again is one of life’s recurring rituals and there is no running from it.

We should value what we have in the present moment and time instead of worrying about what we lack, if you can see past anything aesthetically you have already won the race.

If you want to read more about Andrea and her beautiful words, visit her blog: ditchthecoolkids.tumblr.com

Lots of Love,

Heidi x

Late Night Vibes #1

Once in a while I will post a couple of songs I like to listen to at night, which help me to think and just relax. I don’t know what it is but there’s just something about listening to music late at night.

So here are the songs of this week, let me know what you think of them.

1Jesse Boykins III: AMOROUS

 

 

2. Candice Chenade: WEAK

 

3. Jhené Aiko: THE WORST